I think one of the hardest things you will ever do in your life is raise a child. There are so many things you have to take into consideration. I think one of the most important things to think about is that you are raising a future adult and you have to think that this very start of their lives is going to shape them as a person for the rest of their lives.
When me and Tony first became parents we often discussed how we wanted to raise our children. One thing we both said was that we wanted to raise free spirited children and I think that anyone that personally knows our children would agree that our children are certainly that! We want our children to be who ever they want to be, We want our children to love whoever they want to love and we will support them down any path they choose to take. The only thing we ask from them is that they are kind, Polite and respectful.
I have become more and more aware that how we speak to our children is going to be how they think in the future if that makes sense. Sometimes I feel that we as adults don’t always take in to consideration how our children may be feeling. For example if you where angry about something and someone came along and screamed at you, That would probably make you even more angry. So if our children are angry then us coming along and shouting at them is going to make them even more angry, But if we talk to them in a calm and understanding voice chances are they will calm down. Don’t get me wrong I am far from the perfect parent and I do sometimes forget all I have just said and shout, After all I am only human, but I try my hardest to make sure that I show them the respect for their feelings I think they deserve. I realize that in the blink of an eye I’m going to be faced with two stroppy teenagers with the weight of the world on their shoulders. We all remember those years where we are really half child, half adult! I’m sure just as I did my children will get into trouble, make questionable choices, face fall outs with friends and also get their little hearts broken. I want to use the time I have now to show them that if they mess up mummy isn’t going to hit the roof and that together we can face anything. I want them to know we can talk about anything and that I will support them through everything.
Raising tiny humans certainly holds a lot of thought but I know that all we can do is our very best and I hope my tiny humans will live a long fulfilled life achieving all that they want to with me and their Daddy by their sides.
So I wanted to dedicate a post to my Dad and my husband seen as it is father’s day.
For as long as I can remember my Dad has been a hero to me. He has always been there to make me laugh and to help me out of any problems I have had. He is such and amazing man with such drive when it comes to succeeding in life, He can literally turn his hand to anything and be good at it. I am so proud of my Dad and I know I am very lucky because not everyone gets a good dad in their lives but I did in mine. Watching him become my children’s Pom pom (Joey named him this) has been so lovely, I’m pretty sure he loves my kids more then me haha! He adores their every move and every step and I think he secretly enjoys watching them paddy and play me up as a little bit of revenge for me doing it to him over the years. Thank you Dad for just being you.
Now to my Husband! He was terrified to become a Dad in case he was bad at it but from the minute our children were born he was brilliant. He has never moaned about taking on a night feed or changing a nappy. I love watching how much the man I love loves our children. I know no matter what happens in life my kids will always have a strong, caring and hard working man to rely on. He will show Joey how to be a gentleman and he will show Penny how a gentleman should be. He works so hard to provide for us all and he still comes home and helps with jobs I often fall behind on. I love watching his childhood imagination come to life when he plays with Joey and how he melts inside as he watches Penny’s cutest come out. Thank you Tony for being my children’s Dad.
We are so bless to have you both in our lives and we are so grateful for you.
p.s You are both lucky to have us to haha!
We had such a lovely date night. We went out for a Chinese and it was so lovely to be in each others company. I think it was one of the first date nights since having kids that we didn’t just sit and talk about our kids! I think it is so easy to loose your relationship when you have children because they fill so much of your lives up. It’s so important to find that time for just the two of us because one day our children will fly the nest and it will just be us two again.
The kids had a lovely time at their Mamar’s house Penny was please to see us but Joey didn’t want to come home! Charming haha! We will definitely be doing it again sometime soon.
Part of the reason I started this blog was to find something to do to keep my mind busy in the quiet moments. I wanted to do something I loved and that is writing. I might not be brilliant at it, I might not know all the correct grammar and even sometimes the correct spelling but it helps and I enjoy it so that’s all that matters.
I wanted to be open and honest about my Journey with anxiety. As I have said before it is such a taboo subject and people including myself are afraid to openly talk about it. I think it’s partly because for anyone that hasn’t been through it, it’s difficult to understand. On Friday I went to my first therapy session. I have decided that I need to work through my issues as I don’t want to be on my medication all my life. I want to be able to work on my own mind to make it strong enough to eventually be without it.
When discussing what road I wanted to go down the therapist gave me two options. She said that we could do as follows:
These sessions would focus on past situations and we could talk them over and work through any feelings I had surrounding them.
Cognitive behavioral therapy
These sessions are designed to help focus on the right now. We can’t change our past and we can’t control our future. This therapy helps you learn how to focus on the now. It gives you techniques to cope with stressful and worrying situations.
I have decide to got for the CBT. I don’t really want to dwell on my past, Like I said it can’t be changed. I also don’t want to waste my time worrying about things that may or may not ever happen. I want to live in the now, I want to enjoy every minute I have and I want to raise my children with this mindset. I don’t want to pass any of my anxiety to them.
So this is the journey I have decided to take. I will update you all on my sessions and I will pass on anything that I learn. I hope sharing my story can help at least one person out.
Thanks for reading!
Well we have made it to date night!! So far Penny hasn’t caught scarlet fever and Joey’s antibiotics have kicked in and he is feeling much better. So I have packed them up and will soon be taking them to my Mum’s house.
We are so excited to go out and actually enjoy a meal and not have to inhale it. I think its so important to have some time for just us and to actually have a conversation that isn’t interrupted by one of our children. I always get a bit anxious leaving the kids. Even though I know they are in good hands with my Mum I just like to be there to tend to their every need! I think this is maybe the second time I have left Penny even though she is almost 15 months, She has been such a bad sleeper but I am sure I will miss her more then she will miss me. Joey is very excited to go as he has been stuck in the house most of the week with scarlet fever.
I’m going to go and check their bags for about the 100th time now to make sure they have everything they need haha!
Thanks for reading!
So scarlet fever has only been in our house for like a day but we are so board stuck in the house! We have coloured, Played, rested and watched disney films. Joey doesn’t have an actual fever today so I think he is feeling a little better but he is covered in a bright red rash that feels like sandpaper. I’m still waiting to see if it hits anyone else, Penny is very grumpy today so it makes me wonder if she is starting with it.
I find when I am stuck in the house its really hard to motivate myself to get anything done. I’ve attempted to write a list of things to do but so far it’s been unsuccessful. Its Tony’s last night at work tonight then he has four days off, I can’t wait for him to be off! I’m still hoping that we have a chance to be able to get out on our date night.
keep your fingers crossed for me!
Its official our house has been hit with the lurgy! Joey started last night with a temp and red throat then by this afternoon he was covered in a rash and had a bright red face. Luckily our doctors are very good at seeing children and we managed to get him a doctors appointment. So now it’s just a watch and wait to see who gets it next! Hopefully nobody. We are also facing the difficulty of getting him to take his medicine! WOW! the scene he made about it was some show. He was screaming very loud for a kid with a sore throat, It was like some sort of exorcism. To be fair to him I did have a little taste to see what all the fuss was about and Jeez does it taste vile. whoever invents some kind of chocolate flavored medicine for kids will be a very rich person some day (P.S please credit me for the idea if you invent it haha)
Its just our luck that he has come down with this now as we have a date night booked for Friday. I know, I know it’s selfish of me to think but we never ever go out just the two of us and whenever we book something you can guarantee that one of our children will get ill. I have my fingers crossed that he will be better and that Penny somehow manages to avoid it all together.
Pray for me haha